" If we could read the secret history of our enemies,
we would find in each man's life a sorrow and a suffering enough to disarm
all hostility."
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
As an astrologer I am continually struck by the potential for sorrow and
suffering when first reviewing a client's chart. However upon meeting them,
I am usually astounded at how uniquely they have coped, survived and even
flourished in spite of the potential for anguish. If we change the word
"enemies" in the quote above to "families," the most important point of this
article would be made. I often wish my clients' families could see and hear
their struggles and their intentions, for these at least, would "disarm all
hostility." The oracle that speaks through the language of astrology, if
nothing else, teaches compassion.
It has been said that the soul is ruthless in seeking its own path home,
and that the needs of the soul, not the desires of the personality,
orchestrate our lives. I have been finding that there is a mystery and
history to each of us that reaches back beyond our present lives directly to
our family lineage. We've inherited a karmic legacy that reflects the
victories, defeats, and hard won battles of our ancestors, for they are
indeed very much with us.
Within families there is a karmic inheritance that is handed down the
family line along with the genetic blueprint. We inherit deeply entrenched
emotional and mental perspectives. Musical and mathematical talents can be
inherited, as well as alcoholism, depression, abuse and certain illnesses.
We gladly accept the Mozart-like unearned talents or propensities, but an
idea such as the Kennedy family "curse" is not pleasant thinking. It is more
reassuring to think that our soul picked our family and our karmic
inheritance so that we could meet the precise challenges needed for our
highest soul growth.
These karmic patterns are not in themselves innate curses or blessings,
for our will, intention, and grace are always operative. But anything can
behave erratically if willfully suppressed for generations. Talents, as well
as troubles, are the gold in the subconscious. Each time we summon our
courage to try something new we reach for that gold. And each time we step
out of denial and choose to make choices to heal rather than conceal, we
change the pattern for the next generation.
The nature of this family inheritance, particularly with regard to
problems, echoes back to the idea that the "sins of the fathers shall be
visited on the children for seven generations." What about the "sins" of the
mothers? And what about the gold? I decided to look at this theory more
closely, by examining my maternal family line.
Actually I did not choose to do this, so much as it chose me. One Sunday
morning a while ago, I awoke with a vague depression that seemed to come
from nowhere. On that morning I decided to use the tarot to see if it could
shed light on the heaviness in my psyche. I pulled the Ten of Swords. On a
divinatory level the Ten of Swords marks the ending of a difficult
situation, and this particular deck told the story of Orestes and the curse
of the House of Atreus. It is a dark tale full of conflict and bloodshed
that is one of the most popular of Greek myths.
As it reads: "A family curse such as Orestes has to bear, is an image of
inner conflicts passed down from one generation to another, where the
grandparents and parents have been unable to face certain of life's
conflicts honestly and the children must inevitably suffer until insight is
gained." It went on to say: "A deep seated and ancient problem is now forced
to the surface and something must ultimately leave our lives."
What left my life that morning was some of the ignorance of what I had
inherited. And though the process continues still, the depression and
morning fog had lifted by the end of the reading.
A Synastry of Charts
It is often difficult to find the secret history of our families when
parents and grandparents so often choose to speak only of their successes or
the failings of others. Even asking probing questions to grandparents often
yields little. Such being the case with me, I decided to do research using
the charts of my grandmother, my mother myself, and my daughter—four women
linked by genes and an obscure karmic history. I found there were
significant astrological connections.
My grandmother's chart had a predominance of planets in earth signs with
the sun conjunct Pluto and Neptune in Taurus. Born in 1880, she had been a
talented artist as a young woman, then had five children and never painted
again. Her husband died in his late fifties of alcoholism. With four planets
in Taurus, issues around money, security, and values were predominant here,
and with Sun conjunct Pluto she would have experienced many symbolic—if not
real—deaths and rebirths in her life. In fact, her mother and sister both
died young from "heart problems" and when her favorite son succumbed to
alcoholism as well, she retired to her room for the rest of her days. It
seemed as if she never felt the serenity and security that is the touchstone
for Taurus. Its not necessary to judge what can't be truly known, but like a
good mystery there are clues and connecting links.
One of these links was the North Node, the aspect that expresses the
direction the Soul longs to go toward. My grandmother's North Node and my
mother's Sun sign are conjunct--basically the same--hinting that my mother
may have partially acted out some of the deep longings of her mother, which
was to find financial and social security. My mother married well and didn't
have to work---however her ambitions were thwarted in many ways, and she
didn't achieve serenity in her life. Her North Node was in independent Aries
close to the Sun sign of her grand-daughter. And to add to the connections,
we see her South Node (where the Soul has come from) at the same sign and
degree as my Sun, strongly suggesting a past life connection between us.
And most striking of all was to see that my grandmother's Sun sign of
Taurus is the same degree as my North Node, hinting that part of my karmic
growth is to find the serenity that alluded both my mother and grandmother.
When I put all of our charts within concentric circles to compare them. a
procedure known as synastry, I found a progression of planets aspecting each
other in such a way as to suggest that there has been a transmission of both
blessings and wounds. Artistic talent, strength of will, naïveté and pride
are all there. Perhaps the most poignant aspect is my mother's Scorpio moon
conjuncting my Chiron exactly, i.e. her emotional style strikes me at the
place of my deepest vulnerability. Our relationship has always been
painfully enmeshed, and codependency issues—sign of an afflicted Neptune—is
prominent in both charts.
Looking at my daughter's chart however, I see signs of a healthier
response; the trail of an afflicted Neptune is there, but the problem
appears to be much less severe. Neptune both confuses and inspires, and
links us to the spirit world. She is finding her way spiritually, and doing
it independent of family conditioning. Her Aries Sun is teaching her about
courage and inter-dependence with others. The aspects to Venus in all the
charts hint of an inherited gift and struggle with creativity, echoing back
to her great-grandmother who fought with the competing demands of art and
children. And finally, her North Node in Virgo is conjunct her father's Sun
sign, and she is learning attention to detail from the paternal legacy as
well.
The Family Curse
In a much more radical fashion, some charts, such as the Kennedy's, show
signs not only of great gifts but of a possible family "curse." In 1969 when
Senator Edward Kennedy saw the collapse of his Presidential hopes after
Chappaquiddick, he asked whether there was a curse on his family. And
indeed, if one examines this family there are elements in the family story
that suggest this possibility.
There are certain features which appear in every myth about a family
curse. It usually begins with an individual's abuse of a God-given talent or
advantage. Something positive gets misused or distorted through arrogance
and pride, what the Greeks call hubris. The abuse of creative potential,
which is sometimes linked with a subtle or not so subtle abuse of children,
is made worse by the denial, and hubris is carried on within members of the
family. Although each generation and each person could expiate the curse by
accepting a certain degree of limitation in their life, they don't, and this
refusal to make necessary sacrifices can be seen as an act of putting
personal desires before the needs of the soul. The soul's needs are ruthless
however, and require a transformation of consciousness to change the family
legacy. Anything consistent in our lives and which shows up in the chart,
can behave like a curse.
Our behavior can change it, although the attitudes that have very old
entrenched roots are harder to change. In the case of the Kennedy's, one
could speculate that the arrogance, ambition, and possible abuses of "Papa"
Joe Kennedy (including the lobotomy of his first daughter) exacerbated a
karmic situation that had its roots in the history and sufferings of the
Irish people. The collective struggle of Irish against English, Catholic
against Protestant, and the tragedy of the famine which drove so many of our
grandparents out of Ireland could have fueled his ambition. He may have
groomed his children for political power in order to redeem, in his mind,
the shame and tragedies the Irish have had to endure in the last few
centuries. This powerful man set in motion a set of inherited attitudes that
produced both great goodness and unforeseen tragedy. Who is the victim here
and who is the victor? Was his ambition (and therefore the curse), actually
a necessary sacrifice for the greater good of our country and the Irish?
Perhaps. Of course all this is just speculation and hypothesis, but this
is what astrologers do.
The opportunity to act on the unlived gifts of our family legacy is a
gift. And what a challenge it is to redeem what was lost through ignorance,
lack of courage, arrogance, or willful unconsciousness. Through our clarity,
humility and willingness to accept limitation, we have the chance to bring
forth the gifts that are longing to be expressed through us. By looking at
the patterns in the family line one can't help but stand in awe of the
patterns that say "this was my hope and fear for myself and my children" and
to sense that the soul's choices are not always that of the conscious ego.
The connection between soul and ego always has this mystery, this uncharted
territory, created by the contract made pre-birth by our soul. Misfortune
and sorrow is often the soul's last resort in moving a person closer to the
right path for them. And whose to say what is truly misfortune? The soul's
path is not easy to describe, and rarely simple to resolve. But we try.
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